Q: TWIMC, the holidays are coming up and I don’t really get along with my in-laws. I don’t really want to go and spend time with them because they just stress me out and make me feel horrible. I’ve tried to tell my husband, but he’s close with them and I want to make him happy. Do I keep going or finally take a stand?
A: That’s a very unfortunate situation and position to be in. Not everyone is going to get along, especially with in-laws being a part of the equation. I think a good remedy would be to limit the time or holidays you do spend with them. Maybe try going every other holiday instead. I’m not sure if there are children involved, but if so, it’s important for them to be a part of the extended family as much as it is with alone time between you and your husband. I know with holidays, it becomes a very stressful time when all we want is to be happy, so it’s important to communicate this with your husband as much as it is with the in-laws. If they can’t respect your decision, then no matter what you do or say will ever change their minds. Your mental health is very important for you, the marriage, and family, so that should take a front seat to your decision making too. And don’t forget to make memories, your in-laws cannot control that either! Happy (upcoming) Holidays!!!!
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